The Affirmation Circle

I'll try to be less didactic in this posting.
But this blog is my soapbox, so it's gonna be hard.
Did I say hard? Yes, this is a blog about hosting sex parties. Or rather, managing a space where sex parties occur.

Last weekend we managed two successful piss parties and I was able to keep the heat up high enough to avoid any yellow skating rinks in the basement play area. That's impressive considering temperatures were in the low teens. A good time was had by all, except maybe the guy who lost his cell phone (or had it stolen -- for the ninth time!) And there was also the one who had too much to drink and was sitting on the floor by the bathroom, leaning against a mirror, vomiting (or dry heaving) into a blue recycling bin over and over. So I gave him some water and had him sit in a chair in the coat check area with a tall white plastic kitchen garbage receptacle underneath him. For being so inebriated (supposedly), he seemed incredibly coherent and apologetic. Maybe he just had a bad combination of food, beer and sex.

But all that was Saturday night's young guy piss party. The older guys on Sunday seem to keep their drinking habits in check, although there is one particular guy who obviously has a drinking problem that I've noticed for a while, so he's been warned that if he starts stumbling around again, he will be too much of a liability and will be 86'd from all parties at the space forever. That sobers up the diehards pretty quickly. (To clarify the obvious: beverages help the piss flow sooner and more abundantly, so having something available to patrons is essential!)

What happened to our affirmation requests for no drunks or vomiting, then?

RE: affirmation requests: in an attempt to keep the parties under control and put the staff on the same page, we all hold hands in a circle (how gay!) before each party and put out positive thoughts regarding what is about to unfold: no patrons passing out, no vomiting, no barebacking, the plumbing will not back up (as it has in the past and flooded the space) and everyone will have a fun, safe time: there will be no drama.
It was my idea to start these affirmation circles (inspired my Madonna's "Truth or Dare") when the parties were getting out of control. I'm not necessarily even a spiritual person, but I believe in the power on the mind. And with the handholding and spoken word, we put whatever we want out there.

So we do what we can to establish the right mood from the outset, and monitor as much as we can. But we can't babysit or provide rehab. This is just a place to escape (safely) from a world of stress and responsibility. And when the economy sucks, that works in our favor.
Sometimes the parties will go off without a hitch and other times a few annoyances will occur. But on the whole, we haven't had the problems we used to.
In other words, our affirmation circle likely has no effect at all, but at least it makes us feel better and brings us together.